Articles by Therese

  • Why empathy needs safety

    Why is it so hard to understand someone we love in the heat of conflict?

  • The Prince of Leonard Avenue

    No partner can heal our childhood wounds.

  • Rupture and repair: why good enough is enough

    Parents and babies are in sync only 30 per cent of the time. What matters is finding the way back.

  • How we learn as children

    Like a panda copying his keepers' grimace, we repeat defences learned in childhood, but what was learned can change.

  • We see what we expect

    Our brains see what they expect, in optical illusions and in our partners. Generosity is the antidote.